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To do or not to do??

Had this thought for quite a while….. actually, something (small event but yet it happened) happened yesterday which fuelled my thoughts abt it….

Does it occur to you that many a times, we do things which we tend to regret…. Actions which we have a gut feeling beforehand, that we will be swearing and cursing if we were to do it….

Many a times, I am faced with this dilemma…. “To do it or not?” A long time ago, I would be trying hard to weigh the pros and cons of my intended action, and then act accordingly…. However, as my character grow and change in the years to follow, I sometimes act on the spur of the moment… in other words, I let my innermost feelings dictate whether I should carry out this certain action, instead of consulting the logical side of me…. Despite knowing that they may lead to dire consequences which I would hate to face, I still did those things which at the very moment mattered to me…. I mean….. c’mon, who hasn’t faced such dilemmas right? And I’m sure all of us have heard things like “Live for today!” , “Cherish the present!”, “If you never try, you’d never know.” And stuff like that….. so sometimes, although we know that we shouldn’t say something…. Things like how you feel about someone else, complains about your fellow colleagues, pouring your heart’s contents to a person you thought you could trust….. we still do it as we feel that there might be a chance that our intended action might lead to a better cause…. We are, in a way, taking a small gamble, on our own feelings, as the opposite party may either respond in the most pleasant and receptive manner, or she/he may just brush you aside, or walk away from you for fear of your over-zealous comments/feelings.

Well, based on a case to case basis, I think that if you have been harbouring a certain thought for a rather long period of time, and you know that by not telling the person about it, it is certainly giving you a great amount of disturbance and unease, it is high time you blurt out your feelings. However, if the situation is such that you know, or can predict that whatever that you might want to say, would destroy a friendship, which meant a great deal to you and the other party, I would think that you should keep your thoughts to yourself for the moment. Let time be the witness of your feelings and as it has proven for so many cases, “things just keep changing and you can never know what will happen tomorrow”, if the situation progresses in your favour, then perhaps if you still harbour the same thoughts, you might wanna consider telling that someone about how you feel.

Hmm…. Guess the above does not/ need not particularly refer to man-woman r/s…. I merely wanted to share a bit about my views on the issue….. hehe…. Dilemma:: A case of logic or feelings? What are we human beings designed to cater for? Are we more of logical beings, or emotional weaklings? =p

posted by heng @ 3:44 PM